Agony Aunt answers your questions, July 18, 2015

I, on the other hand, am more reserved and I guess quite cautious.

I do try to join in with all his pursuits but no matter how hard I try it never seems to be enough.

I actually do enjoy most of the things he does but it is just getting too hard.

I always walk away feeling useless and inferior. Maybe I should just not try to join in and let him get on with it.

It would make for calmer waters at home. What would you do?

It is always hard when one part of the partnership is more into extreme or adventure-oriented pastimes.

In your case this is made even harder by virtue of the fact that your guy seems to need to downplay or belittle your ability or effort.

I applaud your efforts and so should your husband. So many men have women that make no effort to join in their pursuits. 

Part of me wants to tell you to tell him to grow up and stop being such a pig but the other part of me suggests that you ignore him and just get on enjoying those things that you do and do not worry about his ultra competitive arrogance. 

Why should you give up fun things just to keep the peace?  I suggest you start walking away when he needs to belittle your efforts. Eventually he will get sick of talking to himself.

As for the comments by the Boys Club this week … I don’t think this lady was whingeing and secondly I think she appears to have made great efforts with little praise or inclusion by her husband. 

Life is way too short to not give it everything you can, don’t let this man rob you of that right.

Listen, you girls have got to learn to join in with us guys. No sense whingeing about being left out if you don’t make any effort.